May 2014 Newsletter

Upcoming Events

Here are all our events for 2014 - (click on the green wording for more detailed information on related website pages.)

Clearing Your Blocks and Traumas Workshop Saturday May 3
FFOMPA and Phoenix Grief Support Information Night Tuesday May 13, 7pm to 9pm
Family Constellations Workshop Saturday May 24
Healthy Relationships Workshop Saturday June 21

Please feel free to contact us if you require more details or book into any events.

Parental Loss and Natural versus Pathological Grief

by Richard Boyd, Body Mind Psychotherapist, Energetics Institute, Perth, West Australia

Copyright 2014

The world was recently shocked to hear of the sudden death of Peaches Geldof at the untimely age of 25. The event brings to a close a tragic trifecta of deaths after the loss of her mother Paula Yates some 14 years earlier in 2000, and the suicide or death of her mother's partner, Michael Hutchence, 17 years ago in 1997.

Significantly Peaches was 7 years old when Hutchence died, and then 11 years old when her mum Paula died of an accidental heroin overdose. Sir Bob Geldof who is her biological father, is still alive but had been divorced and separated from Paula in 1996 when Peaches was only 6 years old.

What this timeline shows is a child forced to cope with parental instability and insecure attachment due to significant parental figure separation and death. Being a child of famous media parents and partner figures, who each had addictions and mental health challenges, means that Peaches was potentially vulnerable to her own later set of issues arising out of such a childhood.

While we do not yet know what was the cause of Peaches death the dynamics around her life are those which potentially set her up for either a form of pathological grief and/or suicidal tendencies as an adolescent and then adult. How this can happen is related to the attachment and then separation process which we all go through from childhood to adolescence teenage years.

Grief is a significant emotional state and a process within itself which relates to the loss of a significant attachment object in our life. Grief is recognised as a primary emotion which means the emotion is an expressive, adaptive response to specific situations or needs  which lead to completion and cessation over time.

Grief as a primary emotion will when expressed lead to the impetus to change, which with grief is to accept the loss and to move on without that person or object being part of one's resources, experiences, relationships or proximity anymore. The grieving process will  when clean facilitate the completion of the whole death experience, so that the survivor is no longer continually pulled out of present time by intrusions of that particular memory from the past.

Click the following link to read the full article:  Parental Loss and Natural versus Pathological Grief

We also have included another article:  How Emotions and Feelings Drive Human Wellness and Illness

Please feel free to contact us if you have any queries or wish to make a booking for private therapy or a group event.

Enjoy your month!

Richard Boyd

Director, Energetics Institute

Psychotherapy & Counselling

Private Therapy